“Measure your worth by your dedication to your path, not by your successes and failures.”
—ELIZABETH GILBERT, BIG MAGIC
There have been times when we get tied up in measuring ourselves by the wrong yardsticks. What kind of job we have, how much money we are making, our titles, the type of car or house we own, or how perfect our social media pages appear.
But are we falling prey to standards set by society or are we spending time and attention to the things that really matter to us?
I once heard a great speaker say that if you look at a person’s calendar and their checkbook, you will see what truly matters to them. Since the two finite resources we have are time and money, how we spend these resources highlight the most important things in our life.
There was a time in my life where I would have told you that family and health were my priorities, but my time was being consumed with work for 12-18 hours a day, leaving little time for much else. It took time, intentionality and patience to undo the damage that this cycle created.
Now I measure success namely in two areas: Health and Happiness
Happiness looks different for everyone, so it’s important to identify what that means for you.
Some questions to ask yourself may be:
- Are you healthy in your mind, body and spirit? That means spending time meditating, exercising practicing gratitude and perhaps journaling. Are you connected to a purpose or mission greater than yourself?
- Are you doing meaningful work that is in alignment with your core values?
- Are you learning something new each week?
- Are you making a positive difference in the lives of the people who matter to you?
- Are you developing and maintaining positive relationships? Spending time with the people that bring you joy?
Take care of your own body as much as you take care of those of your children or pets. Give it the love, rest, nourishment and make it as strong as it can be.
Take care of your mind like you are growing your garden. Keep it growing by reading or listening to good books or podcasts, and meditating a few minutes each morning.
Perfectionism is not healthy striving. Current research and data show that striving for excellence and perfectionism are on opposite sides of the spectrum. Striving for excellence gives us a chance to continually work on self-improvement and growth.
Success Measures for me now include:
- Having dinner together as a family most of the week.
- Cooking most nights of the week
- Exercising 3-4x/week
- Making enough time and energy to help a friend or a family member in need
- How many lives I have improved or positively influenced
- Being ok leaving the dishes in the sink til the next morning, and curling up with a good book and cup of tea instead
- Having dance parties with my kids
How do you measure success? I would love to hear your thoughts – Thank you for being part of our community!